First choose a person to whom you are either attracted or repelled (romantic partner, boss, parent, rude store clerk) or pick a dream image or even a body sensation that creates a disturbance in your awareness.

You can either talk through the process or use a journal to write in out. If talking, imagine the person or the man sitting across from you. If using a journal simply write out each of the following steps.

3 - FACE IT

2 - TALK TO IT

Enter into a dialogue with this object of awareness using second person pronouns (you and yours). This is your opportunity to enter into a relationship with the disturbance, so talk directly to the person, image or sensation. You may ask questions such as “Who/what are you?  Where do you come from?  What do you want from me?  What do you need to tell me?  What gifts are you bringing me?  ”Then allow the disturbance to respond back to you. Allow yourself to be surprised by what emerges in the dialogue.

1 - BE IT

Now, writing or speaking in first person, become the person, image or sensation you have been exploring. Use the first person pronouns (I, me, mine). See the world, including yourself, entirely from the perspective of that disturbance and allow yourself to discover not only your commonalities but also how you are really one and the same. Finally make a statement of identification: “I am__________” or “__________ is me.”

Now integrate this perspective into a larger and expanded you, feeling it as an integral part of your being. That’s it. Try it out for yourself with any person, dream image or sensation in the body that you find  disturbing in any way. For those of you who know me, you know that my bumper-sticker quote for SOULutions work  is “ Whatever we resist persists. Yet whatever we have the courage to fully face, feel and embrace, becomes grace” You can see how this process does this.